This is a public service announcement.
I’m thinking this subject hits home for at least a few of you out there (am I right, @kaitlynabdou / Twitter). Of course, OF COURSE, when one falls in love, they can get swept away in it! Finally, they have found the peanut butter, to their jelly. The Sonny to their Cher…no wait, they got divorced. The Captain, to their Tennille. Shit, no, they got divorced too! OK the Barbara to their GHW Bush! Hah! Anyway! People get stoked and they may get a little quieter in their communication, as these days, one’s thumbs can only type out a limited amount of text messages and fb tags a day.
However, one should not DUMP their friends when they find love. I don’t mean, “I can’t hang every Friday night out now.” I mean more like — “new phone — who dis?” Just poof, MIA! Our friends are not just place holders for romantic relationships. Our friends, our truly good friends, the ones who love us and support us emotionally and sometimes even physically (hey can I get a ride, can you babysit, can you let me watch GoT at your house with you???) for no other reason than that they think we are cool and good humans — these people do not lose value just because you are now getting your cardio primarily in the bedroom.
Remember the golden rule — how would YOU feel if your friends did this to you? Wouldn’t it feel shitty? Wouldn’t you feel (literally) abandoned? Wouldn’t you also want to silly string “Give me back my Sex & the City DVD set” across their car? No? Only me? OK fine. But the point is, friendship is more than trading rides to the airport. These platonic bonds are the stuff of life — they enrich us — just like a healthy and positive romantic relationship does (see also: Captain Wentworth). To be well rounded people we should only cut out negative relationships, not ALL other relationships, and definitely not just glom onto our new s.o.
It has been noted many times that people who ditch their friends in favor of their new mate can become far less interesting to said mate and may even be seen as clingy because of it. Keep your circle of friends! For me these days it’s more like a semi-circle, or a very small arc, but damn it, my few besties are wonderful people, and I wouldn’t trade them for a flock of frenemies and hangers-on and muah-muah-see-you-at-the-next-event types for anything in the world! And I think @Kaitlynabdou AND Captain Wentworth would back me up on this. 😉
Til Next time!
Time for a Coffee,